You Deserve It: Let’s Ditch the Guilt Around Me Time

You Can Not Pour From An Empty Cup

How many times have you started to take five minutes for yourself, only to be interrupted by a little voice calling your name, the ping of an unread email, or your own internal guilt whispering, “You should be doing something else”?

If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

As women—especially mums—we’ve been conditioned to believe that our value lies in how much we do for others. But here’s the truth I want you to take to heart: you deserve me time. Not as a reward, not when everything’s done—just because you’re you.

Me Time Isn’t Selfish, It’s Survival

Taking time for yourself isn’t indulgent. It’s essential. When you constantly give without refilling your cup, burnout creeps in. You lose touch with your spark, your joy, your identity beyond the roles you fill.

Me time is how we reconnect with ourselves. It’s how we maintain our mental health, keep our emotions in check, and remind ourselves we’re more than just a to-do list.

Whether it’s 10 minutes with a hot coffee in silence, a bubble bath without interruption, or a solo walk listening to your favourite playlist—it matters. You matter.

Where Does the Guilt Come From?

Guilt often shows up because we feel responsible for everyone else’s wellbeing. But here’s the thing—your wellbeing is just as important. Your children, your family, your friends—they benefit when you’re rested, grounded, and happy.

Imagine what you’re modelling when you prioritise yourself. You’re teaching your children that women deserve rest. That caring for yourself isn’t weakness, it’s strength.

Let’s Flip the Script

Instead of asking, “Can I really take time for me?” ask:

“What do I need right now?”

“How can I show up for myself today?”

“What message am I sending by loving myself enough to rest?”

Self-care isn’t about escaping your life. It’s about making space to enjoy it more.

No Guilt, Just Grace

So this week, I want you to try something radical: Schedule in your me time—and stick to it like you would any other important appointment.

Light that candle. Read that chapter. Say no when you need to. Say yes to your needs.

And if that voice of guilt creeps in? Remind yourself: You’re not taking away from anyone else by pouring into yourself. You’re ensuring you’ve got more to give.

Because you deserve it.

With love and gentle encouragement,

Kirsty Olivia

Founder, Kirsty Olivia Self Care x